On the relationship side, if you teach people to respond actively and constructively when someone they care about has a victory, it increases love and friendship and decreases the probability of depression. If we just wanted positive emotions, our species would have died out a long time ago. The good life is using your signature strengths every day to produce authentic happiness and abundant gratification. ~ Martin Seligman.Īuthentic happiness derives from raising the bar for yourself, not rating yourself against others. Just as the good life is something beyond the pleasant life, the meaningful life is beyond the good life. What I want to do is see psychologists working to help people build strengths in all these domains. Its about education, work, marriage – its even about sports.
Psychology is much bigger than just medicine, or fixing unhealthy things. … And now when I tell people what I do, they move toward me. Ten years ago, when I was on an airplane and I introduced myself to my seatmate, and told them, they’d move away from me. Life inflicts the same setbacks and tragedies on the optimist as on the pessimist, but the optimist weathers them better. It needs to result from doing well, from being warranted. What determines how much time and deliberate practice a child is willing to devote to achievement? Nothing less than her character. Happiness is just one-fifth of what human beings choose to do. I’m trying to broaden the scope of positive psychology well beyond the smiley face. To be a virtuous person is to display, by acts of will, all or at least most of the six ubiquitous virtues: wisdom, courage, humanity, justice, temperance, and transcendence. Money, amazingly, is losing its power… Our economy is rapidly changing from a money economy to a satisfaction economy. Learned helplessness is the giving-up reaction, the quitting response that follows from the belief that whatever you do doesn’t matter. People who believe they cause good things tend to like themselves better than people who believe good things come from other people or circumstances.
The aim of Positive Psychology is to catalyze a change in psychology from a preoccupation only with repairing the worst things in life to also building the best qualities in life. The pleasant life: a life that successfully pursues the positive emotions about the present, past, and future. Reaching beyond where you are is really important. Well-being is a combination of feeling good as well as actually having meaning, good relationships and accomplishment. Well-being cannot exist just in your own head. One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last twenty years is that individuals choose the way they think. Ask yourselves, when for you does time stop? When are you truly at home, wanting to be no place else? ~ Martin Seligman. There is one aspect of happiness that’s been well studied, and it’s the notion of flow. The more freedom the child had, the lower his self-esteem. The clearer the rules and the limits enforced by parents, the higher the child’s self-esteem. Optimism is a tool with a certain clear set of benefits: it fights depression, it promotes achievement and produces better health. Optimism is the feeling of thinking things will be well and be hopeful. Positive thinking is the notion that if you think good thoughts, things will work out well. ~ Martin Seligman.įirst, you learn to recognize the automatic thoughts flitting through your consciousness at the times you feel worst. I believe that optimistic explanatory style is the key to persistence. Success requires persistence, the ability to not give up in the face of failure. Not only do happy people endure pain better and take more health and safety precautions when threatened, but positive emotions undo negative emotions.
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